Compassion fatigue is real
People who deal with emotional or traumatic issues often deal with compassion fatigue. It makes it hard to have sympathy and empathy with people when you practice doing this every day.
I have spoken often about kindness. At times I reach my limit of kindness. When people are determined to go their own way no matter how ill advised it may be, I just have to let go.
Over and over I see people that ask me for advice ignore my advice personally and professionally. They think they are more knowledgable and when things go wrong, then they come to me for support. I faced this many times in my past with former relationships and jobs. I never said “I told you so” but I didn’t have to. They recognized the error of their ways.
People have the right to choose anything they want in life. They have the right to do whatever they think is best. Don’t ask me for advice and then ignore it. I stop giving advice.
I think what bothers me the most is not that people make bad choices. People are free to make terrible choices in life and life with the consequences. I think it is that people make bad choices, and then want others to let them vent and help them. I’m sorry it doesn’t work that way.
If people make the decision, they also accept the consequences. Too often people make decisions but then aren’t willing to face the consequences of those decisions. As you know I have been watching Caught in Providence lately. I see over and over people who are avoiding responsibility for themselves and others. I love how Judge Caprio deals with them. There are consequences and they need to learn their lesson.
Honestly I don’t know how Judge Caprio does it. I would have compassion fatigue listening to all those sob stories. I am not sure how he can determine who is lying and who is telling the truth. That would be a hard call for me. I just know that for every choice I make, I welcome being responsible for the consequences. Facing the consequences are what make you a better person.
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