Feel bad that recruiters or companies aren’t calling you back? You should be glad instead.
Why? I wrote before that roughly 60 million US citizens have mental issues each year. In a country with roughly 328 million people as of 2019, that means that 1 out of every 5 people you meet has a problem. This includes people who are recruiters, hiring managers, possible bosses or people who do your background check. So the first hurdle is getting past people who have emotional and intellectual issues and showing them how you can help them.
There are many reasons for a company to say no to a person and they don’t even have to be reasonable. Sometimes unfortunately people are racist, sexist or any other stereotype. Some people hire based on looks while others won’t hire anyone smarter than them. Others like to make sure the person has the same beliefs they do.
I have shared that I have gone to interviews and the interviewer said that I was saying all the right things but he still doesn’t like me. I said ok and finished the interview and left. I can’t handle how someone might feel emotionally about me. I don’t control other peoples emotions nor is it my job to work out their issues unless they ask for my help. Here are a few more of my experiences with interviews and recruiters.
Job hiring isn’t rational or scientific. It is more about who you know than what you know. People like to feel the power of hiring someone, and so they come up with reasons to hire you that often have nothing to do with your ability to do the job.
For example, one time I was given a test for a company that used Linux. I do ok with Linux but I failed that test. I thanked them for their time and went home. I was called and given the job anyway. I did not have the skills to do that job but they wanted me anyway. I said to them “I don’t have the skills to do this job.” They said Please come and work with us anyway. I tried it and left a short time later.
I had no business in that job and they couldn’t see it. Yes I did some things for them, but I still didn’t feel that I was good enough for that job and they should have seen that. I have repeatedly had to tell recruiters and companies I don’t think I would be a good fit in this job several times because they don’t realize that even though I know the skills, doesn’t mean that I am good at it.
This is the problem with interviews. They never really can test your ability until you are on the job. They can ask questions that you can have answers to. You can bluff really well and many IT people get jobs that they don’t deserve. However until you are in the job, only then can they evaluate your ability and skill. Interviews are just to give a company a vague idea that it is possible that you can do the job, not that you will really be able to do it.
Therefore if you don’t get a job offer, be glad. They don’t think that you could do it and perhaps they are right. Many cultures are toxic, overwork their people or pay low. Do you really want that to be your future? Being brave and waiting to the right job appears is an important to your happiness as a healthy relationship. Be brave folks!