Stories from My Past: Don’t engage with crazy
One of the most difficult things to do in life is to let go and not engage with people who have issues. It is easy to think we are “right” and that we are justified in what we do. The problem is that although we may be right, our actions are not going to bring us happiness. Let me give you an example.
At work sometimes you meet someone who is romantically interested in you. This happened to me and the woman was very open and friendly. When I went to see if she was interested, it’s where it got weird. I’m not going to go into details, but suffice to say she would be hot and cold with me with interest. That doesn’t work for me. If you like someone you like them, you don’t switch per day. I can’t have a relationship with someone who isn’t emotionally consistent.
Every day we have opportunities to spend time and energy on relationships and people. There is only so much time during the day so you have to prioritize your time. If you waste your life trying to fix a situation that was unfair, you often end up just wasting more time. Time is money and it takes awhile for us to learn about throwing bad money after good.
Another example. I had a car I talked about before that kept breaking. It was my first car and I thought that since I had invested so much time and energy into the car I should keep fixing it. (Better the devil you know right?) However it becomes apparent that some things are just broken in life, and that no amount of money or time can fix it. You don’t throw bad money after good money, so it is a fallacy to spend money after you have already spend money. It is actually called “Sunken money fallacy” I believe. That when you spend money on something, you have to continue to spend money on it.
It is crazy to try to fix something that is broken and can’t be fixed no matter how much time/money you throw at it.
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