You have to laugh in life

Life never turns out the way we plan. So you have to laugh in life when things don’t go how you would hope.

It is funny isn’t it? We think that we can plan things and somehow life is going to cooperate. We can certainly plan small things and do them, but the most important things we can’t plan and they just happen to us.

Getting a job, having a relationship, these are small things that we can plan. We can certainly focus our time and energy on them until we achieve them. You give someone enough time and anything is possible.

However in a larger sense we can not plan the most important things in life. Enjoying our job, growing in our relationship, feeling joy or happiness. No those are a byproduct of factors beyond our control no matter how much we wish it weren’t.

Lots of books and people say that if you do xyz things you will enjoy your job, grow in your relationship or feel joy and happiness. This is not true. Those things can help contribute to it, but you can’t expect that life gives you continuous enjoyment, growth or happiness. It just isn’t reality.

In every day, in every life there are going to be difficult moments. Moments that are stressful because you don’t know what to do, or you don’t feel you can do what you know you need to do. In those times our character is forged. When things are at their worst, (as Dungeon master said) things are actually at their best.

What does this mean? When we face difficulty or challenge, we often find in ourselves the ability to make peace with things. We find inner resources, or life helps us to continue. We should not discount things we don’t control or understand.

When the student is ready the teacher appears. This has always been true for me.